​Learning that someone you love has been diagnosed with cancer can wreak havoc on your emotions. You might experience overwhelm, anger, depression, or any combination of these feelings. While everyone processes this news differently, the best thing you can do for your loved one is to remain hopeful and supportive throughout their journey to recovery.

Here are some ways to show your support without overstepping boundaries.

Let them decide when it’s time to talk about it.

A common frustration among cancer patients is the feeling that their diagnosis has taken over their life or identity. While there will be days where your loved one may not feel well enough to presume everyday activities, the person with cancer is still a person; still themselves. It’s important that you maintain normalcy in your relationship rather than bringing their diagnosis into every conversation. Even small doses of regularly can serve as a reminder that not all hope is lost.

Just listen.

Unless you’re a world-renowned oncologist, chances are your loved one doesn’t expect you to have the answers. What they need from you, more than anything, is someone to confide in about what they’re going through. They don’t need you to fully understand what they’re going through; just to be there for the ride. Instead of chiming in with solutions or unsolicited advice, show your support by actively listening and reminding them how much you care. ​

Don’t minimize or compare.

While it’s tempting to comfort your loved one by whatever means necessary, it isn’t helpful to say things like, “At least you have the good kind of cancer.” or “Don’t worry, you’ll be just fine!” These kinds of statements are dismissive of what your friend is going through, and can cause feelings of alienation. After all, cancer of any type or level is very serious.

Educate yourself.

One of the best ways that you can be involved in your loved one’s recovery is by researching and understanding their disease. In addition to showing your dedication, this will better prepare you to care for them. By reading up on the potential symptoms, treatments, and side effects your friend may experience, you are immersing yourself in their world, making you better equipped to handle what’s to come.

Share encouraging stories.

While you don’t want to barrage your friend with story after story about cancer remission, don’t be afraid to share particularly uplifting articles or videos. Cancer comes with a great deal of uncertainty, and inspirational stories can provide a glimmer of hope when it’s needed. And remember – hope comes in all forms, so don’t limit yourself to sending things solely related to cancer. Positivity is a powerful tool in recovery!

Extend a helping hand.

With the stress (both physically and mentally) of cancer, it can be difficult to handle life’s speed bumps. For some, asking for help is challenging, and they may end up with more on their plate than they can handle. If there’s something you can do to help – whether it’s child care, running errands, or even preparing a meal – your support won’t go unnoticed and can offer your friend a sense of relief. If finances are a concern when it comes to treatment, another great way to show your support is by arranging a fundraiser or crowdfunding campaign to raise money.


There are so many ways to demonstrate your love and loyalty to a friend in need. By following these basic guidelines, you can show that you’re in your loved one’s corner without causing additional stress, embarrassment, or frustration. ​

11 thoughts on “​How To Support a Loved One with Cancer

  1. Good evening, do you have any treatment for Sarcoidosis disease? My husband passed 8 years ago at 49 of this disease and I have a friend who’s has battled with it for many years.
    Thank you.

    1. Hi Myra,
      Thank you for sharing your husband’s story, we can understand your pain. Pared down to the bare basics, sarcoidosis is essentially an immune system disease. In addition to treating cancer (which we also consider to be partially an immune system disease), we treat many chronic diseases characterized by malfunctioning immune systems. Getting the body back to balance, adding key ingredients needed by the immune system to work efficiently again, adjusting nutrition are just some of the steps needed to get the body back in charge. May we recommend that you have your friend call to schedule a free consultation call with one of our counselors? They will be happy to guide him through his options. (Click here to schedule a call).

  2. My daughter has just undergone her 5th chemo conventional treatment with Taxatere, Herceptin, and Perjeta for her stage IV invasive ductile inflammatory breast carcinoma. Her tumor has shrunk to where it is undetectable to the touch. We would like to now switch to the homeopathic process, keep her immune system intact, and let her body heal the cancer. She is on the Gershon Diet, Curcumin, Vitamin D3, Cod Liver Oil, Immpower, AHCC probiotics from Japan, and the Budwig Protocol. We are sending away for the Greece test to be done. Would you utilize this test? Also, approximately, what amount of expense are you talking about for a stay at your clinic for two?

    1. Dear Tom,
      We will certainly use any information you provide us from prior tests, including the Greece Test. The information related to chemotherapies that arises from the Greece Test will not be very useful because we don’t use chemo in the first place. Without minimizing the importance of cancer-causing genes, we do believe that it is not the genetics, but the epigenetics (triggering of gene expression) that is strongly related to cancer. Epigenetics can be controlled in a variety of ways, including through immune modulation, nutrition, detoxification, as well as emotional/spiritual healing approaches. Finally, we would carefully review the natural substances that the test suggests might be valuable in your daughter’s treatment.

      I have forwarded your email address to our patient counselor team who will be reaching out to you very soon. However, to expedite the process, please feel free to click here to schedule a free consultation. We look forward to helping you and your family in your daughter’s recovery.

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